Mar. 17, 2017

Tips for brothers and sisters

Some Tips on How to be Brothers and Sisters:

Beware of jealousy: Someone always does better than the others in every family. The biblical Abel became a shepherd while Cain tilled the soil. Their occupations were completely different, yet Cain killed Abel. That’s jealousy. Jealousy could be a big issue among brothers and sisters irrespective of what they do. Rather than be jealous, be supportive.

Respect boundaries: While encouraging family closeness, it is always good to recognize and respect mutual boundaries. Some brothers and sisters carry the mentality of childhood into adulthood. They exhibit controlling attitudes over their brothers and sisters. They meddle into other’s marriages and try to direct their siblings on what to do, or even how to run their families. That could be trespassing, not helpful. Recognize boundaries.

Avoid close dealings with money if possible: Most siblings avoid doing business together because of the negative influence of money. Some families have been destroyed by it. We read in Timothy, “The love of money is the root of all evils, and there are some who, pursuing it, have wandered away from the faith and so given their souls any number of fatal wounds” (1Tim.6:10). Money can tear family apart.

Forgive: Forgiveness comes from the feeling of cherishing someone. It is a special gift for strengthening unity. It makes you recognize your brother’s weaknesses. No matter how much your brother or sister offends you, try to forgive him/her. No friend can override your siblings. Once an internal cohesion is built among brothers and sisters, the family has a strong proof against external enemies.

Pray for your siblings: Always put out some word of prayers and blessings for your brothers and sisters, it works. Blessings work even from afar. God said to Abraham, “I will bless those who bless you, and shall curse those who curse you” (Gen.12:3). Be a blessing to your family, pronounce blessings on them always.

Make time to get together: Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, etc., are great occasions to get together. Whereas you make contacts through phone calls, emails and chats on social media, don’t take getting together with siblings for granted. Physical meetings strengthen family bond.

In our next reflection, we’ll look at some instances from the scripture on some origins of conflicts in the family. We’ll also highlight some scriptural examples of family commitment.

Thank God it’s Friday!